When Are Men Ready For Marriage

Marriage is not an end nor a goal to be achieved, it's the beginning of a tremendous responsibility. Don't take it on until you're ready... and when  you're ready, take it on with all you've got.
The point I'm trying to make is this:  before you get involved in a committed relationship, make sure you are truly ready for the reality of it, truly ready for the responsibility, truly ready to give up what you have to give up for it.

Our society is based on the family unit and a happy, healthy marriage.  But that's the rub--a happy, healthy marriage.  And if you stick a guy who is not prepared for the real world reality, rigors and responsibility of marriage into such a situation, disaster will result.
Now, don't get me wrong--I am not anti-marriage in any way, shape or form.  I am very much a pro marriage guy, and happy to say many of my customers have gotten and stayed married because of my advice, and many others have saved their relationships because of it.

The Big Lie is this:  you meet a beautiful woman.  You feel chemistry for her (or try to).  You look like you're matched.  So you get married.  And then you ascend to heaven, to stay there forever more.

Unfortunately, that's not how the world works.  That's why there are so many divorce lawyers prospering.  The Big Lie is just that-a big lie.

The reality is this.  There are two kinds of men in this world: "marriage and kids" men and "rock and roll guys."  Rock and roll guys are not cut out to get married.  They should spend time with lots of different naughty girls, should indulge their fantasies,should "be bad."

Why?  Because they make lousy husbands.  And when a rock and roll guy buys into The Big Lie and tries to become a marriage and kids guy well... he winds up on tv and in sex therapy trying to be something he's not.

If you're currently a rock and roll guy, play your guitar loud and proud.  Rock the house, and improve the lives of a few naughty girls.  Sometime in the future when you have age, and wisdom on your side you can turn off the lights, put your guitar away and become a marriage and kids guy. Nothing wrong with that, and in fact I encourage it.

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